What Is True Happiness And How Do We Achieve It
Wondering how to be happy is not a though that lingers in our minds for long as there tend to be quite a few points in each day where we are very happy, but the happiness Im talking about is a more stable happiness than that, not a feeling that comes and goes with different day to day situations, and no Im not going to start preaching spiritualism at you, although that does seem to be a popular method for achieving happiness.
If you were to look at someone who is truly happy, you would see that it is not because they have achieved a lot and not because they dont have any more challenges, but that they are happy in spite of the challenges that lay ahead.
For a lot of people, being happy is associated with an object. Like a kid is happy when he has ice-cream in his hands, many people are happy when they have something they desire with them. But the problem is that our desire for the material things does not remain constant. Once we get used to that object, we desire something else and the whole cycle starts off in earnest once more. And we should mention here that happiness is dependant on an absence of insecurities. As long as we are worried about what we have and how long it will be with us, we remain unhappy; and that is why we see billionaires from around the world getting psychological counseling to lead their lives in a happier manner.
When we are not insecure from inside, we have no reason to be unhappy, really. All the gurus have said the same thing ” in all the religions of the world, and they are all fundamentally correct. The teachings of todays self help masters also focuses around that aspect. However, most of the people attending those sessions walk out temporarily motivated, and not permanently inspired to be happy. For a week or so everything will seem rosy; and then it will start wearing off. For the happiness to remain constant, the teachings should not just be put into practice, but imbibed into their regular schedules. It is not really difficult!
The first thing to do to achieve true happiness would be to attend a few interactive sessions (not lectures) lead by someone who has had self esteem issues and insecurities, and is now genuinely happy. If you can find someone like that, you cant go wrong.